A word about Friends & Life overall

I suppose the first thing someone will think is, why is this here? Where did these thoughts come from?
Well here is the story behind this page, as well as my definition of a friend. (at the end of this page)

I have heard the same things said by people throughout my life. Whether they are the age of 8, or the age of 70? The interesting thing is that they are common things. I often hear people say, well what else would you expect out of a kid or out of an old person. However, that's not even remotely close to the truth.

I have heard all ages say the following things repeatedly:

I dont' have anything to do; I am to old to meet anybody (potential wife or husband); I have to be married before 30, the clock is ticking; how come I don't have a (boyfriend, girlfriend); nobody likes me; you don't know what it's alike to live in an apartment or in a trailer, or rent a room; where can I meet somebody; I don't want to go there I will be the only single person there; I will feel like I am tagging along; my life sucks; I have no life and so on; It's easy for you to think positive you have a life; I don't have any friends.

My guess is if your reading this, you have said it or heard it yourself.

The fact is everybody goes through this stuff. I have been there myself, as well as most other people.

I have lived in an apartment, I have went through the Oh my God I have to get married before I am 30! The clock is ticking! I have seen it myself. However, I have seen it fail because it was rushed or forced. I have been divorced myself possibly because of that same reason, although I have two wonderful girls from it.

I have done the bar thing, I have went to parties, I have met people at the most unlikely place in the world. I thought I beat the clock, the first time it failed.

I have seen people between 20 and 60 years old, think they had the perfect life. Then after being married for 2-50 years, it ends up in disarray and divorce.

I have seen people not find someone until they are in their 40's, and it ends up perfect with kids and all. I have seen it all, either myself or through others.

I have no life? This has got to be the worst saying in history. Ask yourself this? What is life? Life by definition is to be alive or to live? Second of all, there are probably more married people without lives, then there are with a life. That's assuming you actually use that saying.

In high school at parties and other events, couples hang all over each other. They sit in the corner and suck face for hours. By the mid 20's that isn't even remotely close. When you get out of college, school reach your mid 20's people go out to socialize. They don't go out to confine themselves in the corner with their significant other.

So get by it.

If someone asks you to go somewhere.........GO!

Sitting around home by yourself depressed is NOT going to help.

Get out of the home!!!

As far as finding your lifetime partner. What people don't want is a light switch. Happy, sad, mad repeatedly. They don't want a jail keeper; it's not about ownership; it's not about saying you have somebody; it's not about telling somebody else what to do, or being compliant or obedient.

It's about having someone to share your life.

Being realistic helps. The answer on where to meet somebody may not be there.

However, I am 100% certain about one thing, sitting at home is not going to be the place to meet somebody.

Think about this? Do you have cancer? Did you have a stroke? Do you have MS, CP, Hepatitis, HIV, a heart problem, renal failure, or any one of thousands of other debilitating diseases?

Don't even say that happens when you get older. I have taken care of everything from the 6 month old with brain cancer, to the 6 year old run over by a car, a 7 year old suffocated to death, and people with rectal and/or breast cancer before the age of 31. They didn't even get to experience "LIFE".

This isn't 1950 it's 2007'. Do you have a job that's secure, and you won't be laid off and be jobless? What's worse? A trailer? An apartment? or Homeless?

Instead of people dwelling on the worst, think of the positives. It can get or be worse!!

I am not even remotely a saint or know it all by any means. I would be lying if I said I never had these thoughts myself at some point.

I have on multiple occasions wanted to wear a T-shirt, which reads; "Nice guys finish last........ So I am going to try out nasty!"

However, I realized myself things can always be worse.

There have been times in the past when I was glad I didn't have; or wished I didn't have a significant other.

I am sure people hate the "Patience is a virtue" Saying. (Piers Plowman' (1377) by William Langland)

However, after seeing it and being there myself, I have another thought. "Better to wait for the right, then rush into the wrong." When rushed into the wrong, it can be brutal.

Last this brings me to my friends thing. Everybody claims, oh yeah I know him/her, they are a friend of mine.

Yet are they a true friend? There is a difference.

I could tell you there are countless numbers of people, that probably claim they are my friend. However, it is probably more like an aquaintence.

We also can't be friends with everybody. God knows I have tried and it doesn't work. Personalities are different, and people are different.

One person who grates on my nerves, may be somebody else's best friend. The fact is there is a difference between friends; a true friend or an acquaintance.

A true friend is hard to find, so if you think you have one or can make one don't bail on them. I would do anything for a true friend myself, but it works both ways. As the saying goes, screw me once or twice shame on you. Screw me a third time shame on me.

You get what you give. (See below)